Ann-Marie and I
were glued to our TV's in our respective states this past
Tuesday, both wondering why we weren't in
Washington. But we came away with the same
feeling --- we got our country
Will Obama Walk the
the entire day Tuesday, Inaugural Day, walking on air.
Really. Right after the inauguration, I took my dogs out
for a walk, despite the 20-degree chill. Best walk I've
had in eight years. Partly because I was so proud to be
an American. Not a hyphenated American. Just a
pure, Constitution loving American. Of the people --- all
of them --- for the people, by the people. I was an
I relished the gorgeous ceremony, correct sentiments, clear
agenda. Even Warren didn't screw it up --- except for his
blaring hypocrisy....yes, let's all be friends, equal friends,
except of course for the gay friends I'm clearly not
mentioning. Then Obama gave his incredible smack-down of
the Bush years. Pitch perfect. On point.
Missed nothing...except....there were a couple of spots where
he could've included gays...and he didn't.
Why is this such a sore point? A half-black man is now
President. Perhaps that's sexual enough for white
America. Is the gay agenda more than America can handle
when it's already dealing with his race? Or is it the
fact that he chose not to make this a race issue? Does
anyone care that he's black, except for
African-Americans? Aren't we for once and finally more
focused on the content of his character? Isn't that what
this victory means?
Yet, I'm puzzled. How can he be for inclusion, but so
clearly leave the GLBT community out of the discussion? I
want to be happy. I want to be hopeful. I want to
believe things are turning around, away from the abyss we've
been teetering on --- BUT. Until he walks that walk, I'm
Unless that's his point. That the important thing IS the
content of his character. The content of his character
inspired 2 or 3 million people to stand outside for hours in
20-degree weather to witness his acceptance of power. If
by following his example, we judge people only by their inner
characteristics --- their moral barometers --- and unabashedly
include everyone, then the distinctions like religion, color,
sexual orientation --- will become moot.
Last November 4th, as a nation, we in fact rendered those
distinctions meaningless for the first time in our
history....can full equality be far behind?
What do you think?
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do you think? Are you
optimistic about the next four years? Cautious? Been
burned too many times to be willing to risk believing he
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Full Measure of
By: Karen J.
Co-Publisher, On the Gay
I found quite a bit to be hopeful about in our
new President's inaugural address. One of my favorite
equal, all are free, and all deserve a chance to pursue
their full measure of
What does "full measure of happiness" sound like
to you? I think he was talking directly to
us. It felt like that to me, anyway.
Of course, I've been wrong before, and only time
very good sign, though, can be found on the brand new
White House website. If you click on civil rights and
scroll down the page a bit you come to the section
the LGBT Community. It
includes expanding hate crimes legislation, supporting ENDA,
support for full civil unions and repeal of the Defense of
Marriage Act, repeal of "don't ask, don't tell", expanding
adoption rights and AIDS prevention, including distributing
contraceptives through the public health system and lifting
the ban on needle exchange.
all there in black and white. And if you go to the
section on Women
, you will find, among other things, his stance on Reproductive
Choice where it says that he "understands that this is a
divisive issue, and respects those who disagree with him.
However, he has been a consistent champion of reproductive
choice and will make preserving women's rights under Roe v.
Wade a priority in his Administration. He opposes any
constitutional amendment to overturn the Supreme Court's
decision in that case."
At the beginning of the LGBT section, they have
included a statement Obama made in
"While we have come a long way since the
Stonewall riots in 1969, we still have a lot of work to do. Too
often, the issue of LGBT rights is exploited by those seeking
to divide us. But at its core, this issue is about who we are
as Americans. It's about whether this nation is going to live
up to its founding promise of equality by treating all its
citizens with dignity and
a lot like "all deserve a chance to pursue their full
measure of happiness" to
So, as Ann-Marie pointed out, we have yet to see
if he will "walk the walk", but it does look like he is
continuing to "talk the
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Ten Things to Look for in a Fitness
Fit in a Year - Week
is your goal? Are you looking to burn calories? Do
you want to improve cardio-vascular function? Do you need
to relieve stress?
2. How much money
can you spend?
3. How do you
prefer to work-out? Do you like a social setting in a
small group? Are you comfortable in a large facility with
lots of peers? Do you need one-on-one attention?
Would you like to work out alone or specifically at
4. When can you fit
your workout time into your schedule? This is an
important question. Get out your calendar. Get out
your family's calendar. Look for the clear slots.
And then write it in. Commit to these times.
5. Check out the
facility. Visit unannounced. Is it
clean? Is the equipment in good condition --- even if you
don't plan to use it? Are people smiling?
6. Check out the
instructor's credentials. Remember that you can now
essentially buy credentials on-line. Never accept an
on-line certification if it is the instructor's primary
certification. An instructor might learn a bit
intellectually this way, but no one has actually witnessed this
instructor's teaching method, nor double checked their safety
7. What is the
class structure? Are you going to be comfortable in the
class no matter what level you begin in?
8. Do you need any
special equipment or clothing? For example, a yoga class
may ask you to bring a sticky mat. A running workshop
requires running shoes.
9. Does the class
progression make sense to you? Does it inspire you?
Does it sound overwhelming? If it sounds overwhelming, it
probably is. Look for something easier for your
first foray into the field.
10. Will you have
fun? If you don't enjoy this, it will quickly become
a chore. And then, it will quickly become a
bore. One person may enjoy running because the
scenery is always changing. Another may find it boring
because the activity never varies.
to you. Know yourself. And get to it!